5 Examples To Flirty SEXTING: SENDING AND RECEIVING nudes
Episode 1: You get a photo you like but aren't sure where to take it from there
Don’t overthink it. “Let them know what you like about the photo and how it makes you feel,” she says. You could even tell them what you want to do with whatever body part you’re seeing. If you’re shy, a flirty emoji can be a more comfortable option.
Whatever your response, don’t feel obligated to send your own nudes in return. There are other ways to reciprocate if sending a pic makes you uncomfortable.
Episode 2: You want your partner to send a nude photo
When you’re asking for a photo – sexting, the same rules apply: make sure your partner enthusiastically consents before engaging in any nude photo exchange. Mintz recommends a simple, clear request like “I’d love to get a picture of your XX.”
Most importantly, don’t pressure them, and don’t take it personally if they say “no,” says O’Reilly. They may be concerned about privacy or just not feel comfortable with it, but that doesn’t reflect how they feel about you.
Episode 3: You want to send a nude photo to someone
You’re comfortable enough with someone to take your sexting to the next level? Awesome. Just make sure they’re on board, too, since not everyone has the same comfort level.
Rule number one: Always ask before sending a racy photo. “If they reply with enthusiasm, you’ve got the green light,” says Astroglide’s resident sexologist Jess O’Reilly, Ph.D. “If they say no or sound unsure, respect their boundaries. Sexting can be hot, but there are many other hot activities in which to engage if it’s not your partner’s cup of tea.”
Episode 4: Your partner asks for a nude photo
First things first: It’s completely up to you if you’re willing to get naked in front of the camera. (If full-on nudity isn’t your thing, you might try something more subtle like underwear or even just a t-shirt.)
Second, be aware that sending a nude photo always entails some risk, says Mintz. The question to ask yourself is, “How sure are you this would not be someone who would show these photos to someone else or post them in revenge if you break up?” she says. “You need to be aware that trust can be broken.”
To practice safer sexting, at the very least, add a passcode to your phone and have your partner do the same. Cropping your face out of any photos also helps to minimize privacy concerns. To really be protected, consider using an encrypted app like DiscKreet which adds an extra layer of protection to your peace of mind. Messages and photos sent between partners in the app require two passwords to open at any given time—in other words, you have to give your consent every time a partner wants to view your photos.
Episode 5: You get an(other) unsolicited dick pic
Sending unsolicited photos is sexual harassment—full stop.
It’s the digital equivalent of flashing someone on the street, so no, you don’t have to be polite if someone on Tinder sends you an unwanted photo of their junk. If this is an ongoing occurrence, O’Reilly suggests reaching out to a friend for support. “Being harassed online can take a toll on your physical and mental health, sense of safety, and relationships,” she says. Know that feeling angry, threatened, or fearful in response to unsolicited sexts is completely valid.
To avoid hearing from the person again, Mintz suggests blocking them or saying something very clear like, “Do not send me any more pictures. This is a form of sexual harassment and I will report you to the police.” You can also actually report them to the police—there are laws around how nude photos are shared. Ultimately, it’s your decision how you respond. “It’s up to you to decide if you’d like to mute, block, report, or reply,” says O’Reilly.